ethiopialandscape

I'm writing these words from Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, having been invited to be part of a team to teach marriage and family to three different geographical groups of Ethiopian pastors and church leaders.

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funeral

Funerals are times that can upset one's spiritual equilibrium, especially if the deceased died unexpectedly, and especially if the family has to put together all of the details in a rushed manner.

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metoo2

According to much of what has been written, revealed, and admitted to in the past six months, the sexual revolution of the 60's and 70's really wasn't so liberating after all.The "end," or goal of the sexual revolution was personal enjoyment without responsibility. That freedom from responsibility was the "free" in "free love." But the tactic of separating love from sex was not so freeing. In fact, one might argue that it created a vacuum, and you know what they say about a vacuum – nature abhors it. So, apparently, does our fallen nature. And so replacing love in the pair came power. Love allowed sex to be used not just for one's own gratification, which it is capable of doing. Love allowed sex to be an act of giving oneself to another in an atmosphere of trust. It was a full, intimate disclosure of oneself to the beloved. But when power pushed love aside to become sex's roommate, the notion of sex being for the pleasure and fulfillment of the other went out the window. It is all about what I want. Free from responsibility toward the partner. Sex became a means to dominate another person, male or female.

So we are left with a curious mess on the battle field of life between the sexes. On the one hand, using sex as an instrument of power is now admitted to be a huge no-no. Hollywood and Washington and everywhere in-between has received that message. Jobs have been lost. Prices have been paid. Scorn and shame are alive and well, thank-you. But there is a second message rising from the debris: "We don't want this to bring about a return to traditional morality." Oh no! God forbid that the notion that the Creator knew best what He was creating regain acceptance! What then? Will intercourse need to be preceded by a pre-intercourse agreement, signed by both parties, sworn to by both that what is about to happen is not happening under duress or by force or threat? Will a video camera need to record both parties stating that what they are about to do is with the full consent of both parties? You see where this is headed? With such testimonies available, the State will become the arbiter of all things moral. How dare the Church judge me and hold me accountable! But the State, on the other hand, well, I need to cover and protect my assets, so OK. Besides, with the State, what was once wrong can become right with the passage of time. Far better than wrestling with laws of a God who says He changes not. Yet it seems that human actions continue to verify that very truth. When it comes to sex, there's no escaping accountability, especially when love has nothing to do with it.